UJ Ramdas: Success and Gratitude –

VIDEO | Dave Asprey

2017-11-01 10:01:52.886 | null

00:00:00 > hey everyone its Dave Asprey with bulletproof radio today for you I've got you Jai Ram Dass who's an entrepreneur and behavioural change specialist with a background in cognitive science to make things a little more interesting though he's also a certified hypnotist the reason that I've invited you Jay on today for you is that he's actually focusing on gratitude which is something that I've spoken about in quite a few podcasts and something that I once said was one of the secrets to being a successful entrepreneur or just a successful human being it's kind of hard to find experts in gratitude to come onto the show because it's not like you go to LinkedIn and type gratitude but I was fortunate to get hooked up with you Jay through our mutual friend Amir rossak so I'm actually really excited to have you on you Jay thanks for joining me on the show today Dave I'm a massive

00:01:02 > fan of bulletproof exec and thank you for having me now you got it you also call yourself a biohacker and there's more and more of us increasingly who just say yeah that's it i hack the environment to hack myself I hacked my brain and all that why do you call yourself a biohacker well I think it's just an innate drive and desire to become a better person and I've always had that drive ever since i was a kid i just did not explain it and I was always thought I Oliver said I was weird or different for trying unique experiments and looking to get more out of my body in my mind and I was only recently I realized well well there's a whole community of people who are doing this and all of them are doing this in their own way in their own specific niches some over there athletes some of them are entrepreneurs but they're all looking to get more other performance and that's something I'm really passionate about so I guess that's why i call myself biohacker just to correct that notion it is weird to be a biohacker that's okay the did you really

00:02:05 > want to be average come on not really you've also had a chance to talk with someone who I really like to have on the show pretty soon here and that's Robert Greene who's written mastery and the 48 laws of power and I've referenced several times that the 48 laws of power really helped me to understand some of the weird mash nations of boardrooms and corporate power politics early my career it actually was like night and day like you ever see the John Carpenter movie them or they live I think it's called they live where you put on these glasses and realize half the people around your aliens you take my lesson or not but I used to think that everyone in the boardroom was an alien and then I read the book and I'm like oh wait there are people just running by an entirely different set of rules so it was kind of cool why did you choose to to bring Robert Greene and on to interview him well actually this is a great question because when I was 16 my i went to the book fair with my father used to be a

00:03:07 > ritual every year me and my dad used to go to the book fair consistently and I remember him looking at book over and over again and he never used to buy books we used to go for me because I just love bucks and i devour bucks and he looked it over and over again and he told me if I'd had this book When I was your age I would be a different man right now and that's stuck with me I'm stuck with me and he bought the book and he said this is not the right time for you maybe in a couple years is a little bit of a heavy read all that was that was a challenge always like a challenge i picked it look next day and it completely changed the way I look at things very similar to how you saw the boardroom as not aliens but people who are who are interesting and running by a completely different set of rules I looked at the world that way and sort of realize a lot of things that I was not paying attention to it allowed me to see a reality is what it is and I think

00:04:08 > Robert calls that phenomenon intense realism being and having the ability to match reality for what it is and being able to observe it without judgment with criticism without any sort of understanding beyond what is actually happening and that allowed me to to make a lot of changes in who I thought were friends to how I spend my time to how realistic I could be in the world about my appraisal and other people's appraisal so it was it was a fascinating read and I've noticed Roberts continuously produced great work so I think one of his best books is 33 founders of war it's a little more heavy and it's definitely a more strategic but for all students of strategy I think it's a required reading I'm very cool so we have we have that in common and I was

00:05:09 > pretty impressed because I've been meaning to say thanks to him for that book because it really helped my career in my my late 20s so it's kind of cool you have the same thing yeah i'll be happy to make introduction to you okay we'll put that up after the show in the meantime though like you're you're interesting like you studied cognitive science which honestly I didn't know as a profession or an academic discipline until I was just finishing my information system sighs I'm like you mean I could have study that like when anyone tell me this was so cool but you didn't you didn't finish that right you went to marketing like why the the cutover from cognitive science to marketing okay so that's a you bring up to very interesting point so I actually studied cognitive science very interestingly because that was the second year it was available it was a very new program and it was an interdisciplinary program between philosophy psychology biology computer science linguistics all the stuff I was pretty much into anyway and I thought how cool would it be to get into all

00:06:11 > these different fields and different departments and find out how to become a better human being how to help other people really become the best they could be so it was it sounded really great and amazing and I'm sure the program and by the end of year one I realized they weren't teaching me a better human being i was i was learning academia that was may be recycled several for a few decades if not several years and i'm an impatient guy i like results out like results fast and I realized learning marketing I learned a lot more about changing human behavior than I ever did in cognitive science and i just realized since i can take a lot of the speed reading and the photo reading experience that I have and dealt my course load as well as study other interesting things like analysis and and do experiments on my body on the side realize it was a pretty cool deal

00:07:13 > so I learned business which I always knew I wanted to be into because anyone want to be in control of my time and money and knowing I could do that as well as learn how to influence behavior and learn practical psychology was exciting for me and I'm always been a fan of results / bland theory when you studied marketing was there an ethics course you had to take I think most as a as just a token of necessity most most professors would say oh by the way I have to mention this you have to do these things by certain guidelines and rules and you should not use this for bad but I've like five minutes and it's been proven over and over in science that morality is never transformed by instruction it's usually transformed by personal experience or values and there were good courses we had like consumer psychology like marketing strategy that

00:08:16 > just way over Road some morality the most people would have had the same experience that warden in fact they were criticized for not having a business ethics course and i remember in a marketing course one of the few ones they had it's like a super finance school it we did this great mathematical analysis of how it was cheaper to spend a dollar to tell someone that your product was good then it was to just make your product good and I just remember being so like like turned off by that line of thinking that I'm like but it's not okay to do that like it at a fundamental like human level you're selling something if you're making crap and saying it's gold like you've done something wrong here yeah actually what I like to tell entrepreneurs and business people in general is it's actually really bad for your happiness if you make a crap product and you market it really well because a in the long term your product isn't going to survive because the best way to kill a bad product is by good

00:09:18 > marketing so you went beyond marketing though now you're into hypnosis we're arresting they did have an ethics thing because it's not okay to make people click like chickens and GS periods of time or really I've never been clear on that yeah so yes there there is an epic spoke to that I'm actually a member of the association of registered clinical hypnotherapist and yes they do have an ethics guideline and I think hypnosis is an interesting field because we've we've explored a lot of things in the world psychology from gratitude journaling and in positive psychology but very little has been done on altered states of consciousness right right now we only have an EEG machine fMRI zegs ECGs that are typically known to measure any any form of mental states now we have a heart bath Institute is doing tons of really great stuff with currents and I'm love to get into that um as interview

00:10:19 > progresses sure I think most of the listeners have probably heard a good amount of HeartMath stuff I'm an advisor to the HeartMath Institute yeah so but let's let's touch on that especially when it relates to to hypnosis and I'd really love to let people learn a little bit about what you've seen it is how hypnosis may reduce anxiety responses especially ones you can measure with a device like the inner balance sensor from our math or even the HRV sense app that I've got out on the iPhone store absolutely so hypnosis basically goes the assumption that there is the conscious mind as there's the unconscious mind so Daniel Kahneman will call it system one and for the unconsciousness system to for the conscious mind and it's defined as the absence of a critical factor or the suspension of a critical factor of the mind the mind the part of your mind that keeps on commenting that keeps on judging analyzing it just goes into goes

00:11:20 > out to lunch for a bit and if you're thinking I wonder what that voice is that's the voice and so it's just a consistent process where you're training your mind to allow yourself to get into a state that allows it's also called a relaxation response or your parasympathetic response where you can allow your brainwaves to go into an alpha State and sustain yourself in an alpha state so it's now shown by many many studies that that state specifically opens you up to suggestions opens you up to learning so TV for example is a great example hypnosis has gone wrong and when people open themselves up to that state in and they're an alpha and there have all these ads coming out them speaking of ethics right it's now showing that when people watch TV there they burn less

00:12:21 > calories in the ones were sleeping about 10 calories less and those suggestions go straight into their minds just the same way when during hypnosis the suggestions typically that they receive go straight deeply into their unconscious and it reduces anxiety the state itself is quite relaxing but it also reduces anxiety it eliminates cravings in smoking subjects and this has been proven if you go to PubMed and search for smoking analysis you'll find several studies that allows through cigarette smokers typically to experience a change of identity an identity change I think is is the key when it comes to reducing and eliminating cravings at least low-level addictions so I found that fascinating and I found just certain hacks that you could do with language and I'm p and hip now it's just very fascinating which is why I I got more into that and and I used it for myself I used it for some clients and it

00:13:22 > was a fascinating way to learn more about human beings about how we function about what works what does it so define NLP for people listening we have a lot of people driving their cars some people are into language hacking some people aren't so what is NLP and how do you use it in your practice so NLP is expanded into neuro linguistic programming and neuro linguistic programming originally was was founded if you want to call it that by Richard Bandler and John grinder so why a mastiff and a linguistics professor and they basically modeled some of the greatest therapists in the world therapists like Mel from erickson virgins to terror other salespeople people who were extremely good and what they did so think of them like early biohackers in the 60s and 70s you know and and they looked at various habits behaviors and attitudes that some of

00:14:25 > these exceptional people had and they broke it down into strategies tips and tools and techniques they called the entire process modeling and they reduce it down language obviously you could reduce down to buy language and verbiage that they reduce it down certain processes that could be run for example on people who had phobias and they've developed on the call of six minutes six seven minute phobia cure where people went to psychologist a psychiatrist for years and years and now within seven minutes with something called double dissociation where you see yourself see yourself so you dissociate yourself twice you eliminate your phobic response and they've developed several cool hacks like that that allow them to use language influence on other people's reality so are you using language influence my reality now did you just NOP me we're always end up eating each other day you know that right we're using the

00:15:26 > limit of our language in each other's reality that's really what podcasts are about when you think about it my intent is is very much to do that inflows people's reality by interviewing people like you on the show you also use something called tracking right when you're looking at people's behavior outside of just their words so you can use NLP more effectively it is that kind of a good explanation of how tracking works for you give me specific yeah like observing human behavior so you can measure unconscious behavior so things like body language the way you move your eyes double shifts and posture things like that absolutely actually pay more attention to by language than words Dave I just I just think words are great I think words can be very powerful and effective I think majority of our cognition is unconscious yeah and people it's been found actually in research that when people are are asked to lie they control their facial expressions and when they control the rest of their

00:16:28 > bodies because they feel a lot of there they're going to be read is based on their face experienced by language people who study by language is a great book called what everybody is saying um and it's by a guy who's been the FBI for several decades and he talks about how the legs are the most honest part of the body really yes because from a limbic response level the legs are respond to fight or flight and they're responsible for movement and they're the most honest part of a person's body someone is looking to make an exit if someone feels that nothing down under threat if their limbic system starts to fire up the legs are the first part of their body to to move so if you're a marketing guy which means that you want to lie to everyone what you do with your legs I relics cross-legged right now no in all

00:17:31 > seriousness I mean what's your read on me I mean I most people are listening to this not watching on YouTube but it's on my youtube channel I mean am i sending off any vibes like since you've been on the show do you watch all the time or do you sort of tune in when you try to pay attention well I don't see all of your body right now so just seeing my chest up I I see your chat from your chest up but I think in Malaysian when we started their call you looked like you're you're just getting stuff together and you were a little rushed oh yeah totally it's because we started interviewing about 15 minutes late yeah just like pulled up to the house and in my side crash so thank you skype for that update not anyway no you look you look and feel great so far thanks man I yeah so do you actually as a trained hypnotist do you watch all the time like can you turn it off or do you just be like oh people are just chilling and then you like turn on the hypnotist vision and like that guy wants to run for the door that guy is hitting on that girl like do you have like matrix vision that you can turn on and off David

00:18:34 > happens on and off but I enjoy this this is yeah I I enjoys I never want to turn it off a turn obviously as the day goes goes by towards the end of the day I'm not sharp and I am the beginning of the day which is why I tell anyone if you want if you want to really see me and we want to get the best of me see me early in the day so that this is part of your practice for building just your own personal awareness of the world around you absolutely you turn off ok that makes sense and of the other hypnosis i know i think that's when most of them would answer like you can get more if you really focus but most of the time you just notice the same way that you might notice it's light outside of the Sun is behind a cloud or something you just pick up more about people because you're trying to pick it up yeah absolutely i think people who are really good at any field looking doctors or surgeons they have very specific verbiage and for that specific field so they know the anatomy really well they know parts of the body that i won't even know how to spell or pronounce and they

00:19:36 > have a very very keen sense of awareness and understanding of that that said it worse so some of the movement guys are like that like kelly start who's been on the show runs san francisco CrossFit he just watches one walk in the door here's ago they've got a week lateral something or another and you know they're right gluteus maximus is undersized and you know and he decided three steps and I'm always just blown away i'd love to develop that kind of physical awareness but you've got that sort of that on the social emotional front as well it sounds like remain as well but instead what what's great is paul ekman who who's done decades of research on emotions around the face mm-hmm he has I believe there about several 56 muscles in the face and he's developed a training called a facial action coding system that allows you to distinguish something called micro-expressions and micro-expressions is something you can't fake it's

00:20:38 > something that is deeply unconscious that is limbic that occurs on the face for just a fraction of a second and allows you to read people fundamentally so much better than then you would and the training itself is you could get online you can download it you get on CD and within a few weeks you get to see this in people in friends and family and lovers and business settings that you didn't see before it's like a light in your brain turned on and you started to notice all of these subconscious emotions that we're always there you'd never paid attention to and everybody can do this with a few weeks Bracker so if you haven't gone i highly recommend you do it alright we'll put links to that in the show notes absolutely there's another discipline that shares this kind of enhanced awareness and that's tracking like tracking animals outdoors if you talk with guys like cody lundin and his school they know where the animals are like in a hundred yard circle they just know and they know

00:21:40 > because they've learned to look at micro signs that you and I would completely not see and what it is is it's enhancing the scope of your awareness so you've done a lot of training to enhance your scope of wariness of the emotional and kind of physical interaction and after all that work you came up with gratitude and the five minute journal which is kind of not what I think most people would expect was was where you'd apply this why did you end up with gratitude after becoming sort of this neurological neurological hacker for lack of a better word you know where you're looking at all these funny behavioral patterns that are invisible to people like me gratitude what's the deal with gratitude well I think if you look at the research Dave gratitude is just such a game changer on on so many levels because gravity is really the fundamental emotion which has a cognitive aspect is what as well as an effect part of it for example gratitude if you look at the researchers is

00:22:42 > divided into acknowledging a benefit from outside of you and which is the cognitive aspects you have to pay attention to it and you have to your prefrontal cortex has to be active for that as well as you have to feel it you have to really experience the joy of having received something and those to connect and allow you to reshape your thinking in a very real way and it all happened frankly complete by complete accident so um so good friend of mine Alex icon and I were just taking a walk and one day we were talking about business we were talking about habits and hacking and behavior morning rituals and he had a morning ritual all and I was I was telling you about my night ritual on every night for five years or so I've done this thing where I i open my notebook and I reviewed the day and in early on I used a gamification

00:23:44 > technique where I used it to allow myself to write down my goals and figure out the actions i'm taking towards it I used to gamify the actions that move me forward but then I just started to use it as a way to review all the good things that happened the day because I'd heard so many good things about to read the research behind it and so because I was biohackers pretty intense about it it took me 5 15 to 20 minutes this is this is not the extensive version the final journal is not the extensive version of what I did we realized it was just boy too much for most people so so I was talking about my process and he said this sounds great how about we recreate a book that allows people to do it because I used to write the questions out by hand every day and saw the value in that but I it took me a couple of minutes to actually get it and once I didn't like this sounds great and I Alex icons is just amazing a design and create like product creation and I'm the Science Guy and and it was really cool

00:24:46 > to work on this project and just look at all the research behind it so there's actually a bunch of research behind this is what the book looks like if you're watching this on video and the format is is the same for every day so we look all the research we look at what's the simplest thing somebody can do to become happier every day that is proven by science and it doesn't take a lot of time to do and the first question as soon as you open the book is what am i grateful for and this is typically to be done as soon as you wake up in the morning if you look at the primacy effect the effect of doing something as soon as you wake up in the morning it can have a disproportional effect on the entire day you heard of people something there to a lot of bed this is the exact opposite about having a bad hair day and there are three things no more than three things you want to make more than three things you can fill in the edges but that is to keep the constraint of

00:25:48 > the time a second is what would make today grey or to make a give a better question what can I do to make today grade which is as I'm sure you know Dave an effect of priming the brain you're priming the plane to look at the actions you can take later on the day that will make the day better so there's research to show that people just by thinking they're going to watch their favorite movie increase endorphins level by twenty-seven percent just the anticipation can be of incredible source of well-being and happiness and last question the morning you're asked is what kind of a person do I want to be today what's my affirmation and that's it typically should take you three minutes at night right before you go to bed this is not the 20 minute version that I used to do this is where three good things that happen today or you could call it three wins it's kind of funny when i took my six-year-old daughter in at

00:26:49 > night i asked her that what are the three things are grateful for today just same thing like it it affects what they think about when they go to sleep right you wanna think about the good things or about the bad things and absolutely and there's you talk about the research there's great research to show that people sleep better once they write something that they're grateful for days they experience better quality of sleep they experience a greater sense of closeness with their family and friends increases pro-social motivation the ability to do acts without being without wanting without needing to be told to do them and the final thing is what's one thing I would do better how could I have made the day better and that's just to get a sense of how do I keep improving because that's I think one of the primary drives that I have in life and I would like everybody else to have if everyone would do just one thing every day to improve themselves the world would be pretty different yeah that

00:27:51 > comment reminds me of what commander Mark divine from sealfit talked about and that's kind of baked into the Navy SEAL ethos and just the way of being where every day you do something like that and the high-performance clients I work with and people are attracted to the bulletproof site typically just think like that and they consider it odd and bizarre that there are people who wouldn't think like that absolutely the alien race Dave it must be those you put on put on your blinders or take them off depending on what it is but absolutely but ok so gratitude helps you sleep better but like what is gratitude actually get you so here's my theory on it based on all the research and this is not double-blind test at all but this is I think pretty pretty accurate reverse engineering of what the studies tell us I think expands or self-concept so we have unconscious limits of what we

00:28:54 > can accept the upper limit of what we can accept in a lower limit of what we can accept well give you an example so it's difficult to explain it in terms of happiness but let's move to something more quantifiable like weight or money so let's let's look at look at you know someone what someone weighs everyone is an upper limit of what they're uncomfortable weighing so for somebody could be 20 pounds overweight where their gut starts to show and they don't fit in a certain size of clothes anymore for somebody it could be if they've cheated on both proved I'd like a couple of times a week they're like I can't do this anymore and that's very different limit for some people the lower limit would be having having to buy a new shorts in you pants or seeing some ribs where they weren't seeing them before and what gratitude does it allows you to see the positive and not just see the

00:29:57 > positive acknowledge that a fact the otha component the feeling is really important because it encodes the fact that you you're expanding what you're seeing that is good in the world you're expanding your self concept of how much you can accept how much positivity how much growth how much improvement how much money how much discipline you can actually accept and it's very difficult to be grateful just for yourself right so it's usually something that's externally directed most people are grateful for the friends and family for things outside of them even if it's their health they're grateful for the circumstances that allow their health to be optimal or bulletproof and that allows them to know that and always stay resilient to obstacles to two mistakes it's being found people who are great who experience gratitude journaling as

00:31:00 > an intervention are more resilient they they have actually higher prefrontal cortex activation in times of difficulties which is which is huge because that the main difference of people who are resilient versus people aren't is and they've done if a my research on this is resilient people activate their prefrontal cortex they're actually sorta think about problem solving as opposed to people who don't wear their limbic system goes off the limbic system is that our fight-or-flight they start panicking and they get into that negative spiral so whereas yeah so gratitude leads to resilience which leads to higher performance absolutely and that's the reason that I'm such a big fan of gratitude what else does it give you so it actually one of the oldest studies and the first studies in gratitude was done by Robert emmons and the very first study was just people writing some something that were grateful for once a

00:32:01 > week five things were grateful for for a period of i believe it was ten weeks and there were bunch of interesting effects so three conditions one people right people things are grateful for two people right things that they were hassled by the third which is the control condition which is just events so people right five of events in the last week they were tested for multiple things including happiness at how much they exercise how they felt about people around them etc in 10 weeks later people they found that their these people in the gratitude condition and exercise 1.5 hours a week more than people who are the control condition which is substantially higher considering it's only once a week it's not daily it's only one exercise the second was the pro-social motivation actually increased which is they started to do more things

00:33:03 > for their their friends their family their colleagues people there they're in business with because they started to attribute all of these get things to them they felt a sense of reciprocity they wanted to do things for them because it recognized how much and how lucky they were to have these people in their lives it's been shown over and over again that appreciation especially expressing appreciation to people on multiple levels can be extremely effective John Gottman who you might have heard of who is the foremost researcher on marriages and what what holes keeps marriages together and what keeps matters support he can tell within I think right now about three minutes like within three months of meeting a couple you can tell whether they're gonna stay together or not with a ninety percent accuracy which is pretty pretty scary when you think about people's someone who can look at by language and hues he talks about a 5

00:34:05 > to 1 ratio of positive effect to negative effect for a thriving relationship and gratitude improves that substantially actually it's one of his seven principles for making marriages work as a Thanksgiving exercise but people share with each other what are the things that they're grateful for each other and one of the side benefits of the 5-minute journal on finding day is people are were telling me my relationship with my wife was so much better because we do the journal together and we share with each other what we're grateful for and it's completely transformed our relationship but that makes so much sense because one of the things that I I've learned and things that I do with my clients when I take them through the 40 years of Zen program is that gratitude is is the first step of forgiveness so if you can find something to be grateful for even if your day was absolute crap and you

00:35:08 > still dig out that gem it lets you let go of whatever you're holding you know that the guy who cut you off in traffic or your boss yelled at you or whatever it was without that spark that comes from gratitude you're not going to be able to do forgiveness and forgiveness is not telling the guy that you've forgiven forgiveness is you just stop being paying attention to it and just it has no more power over you otherwise you go to sleep at night what's going to happen you're going to think about that instead of thinking about what you're grateful for and and all the other things so I think your journals as a neat hack because it's a very small amount of time in order to get this info down why is it why is it on paper like you're you're killing trees chopping them up its your nicely bound you know why didn't you make this some kind of you know cheesy iphone app it's funny you ask is but we're actually have an AB in progress right now oh is it TZ ok I don't think it's been kinda cheesy but the original reason why why we made it on paper is because there's something that fundamentally happens when you put pen

00:36:10 > to paper it's true and and you start writing so there's entire science devoted to the experience of coding and writing and understanding personality traits through looking at handwriting's called pathologies recognized in quarks as as ways to find out whether a person is lying or not but also what it does is when your brain looks at your handwriting it your brain begins to notice that a this is something that you've committed to yourself there's a great book called influenced by CH LD knee and there he talks about important principle of influence called commitment and consistency and people who write something down our magnitudes of times more likely to follow through on that action as opposed to just having set it to somebody it's funny Napoleon Hill was the first guy to say no write it down put it on a mirror I did that when I was

00:37:12 > 16 I said I'll be a millionaire by that time in 23 and I did it when I was 26 so I don't know if it worked or not but a single data point but it was pretty cool and I didn't write and stay a millionaire so of course the company went bankrupt a couple years later but no fun ride right that's a harder part get rich and stay rich it's a few confirmations that that last one matters stay for the people listening yeah make sure you keep that stay in there live and learn right absolutely I've experienced something different though people under about 25 who grew up with technology interact with the world in a different way and I'm rare and that I this I guess this coming month I turned 41 but I've had my own computer since I was eight before das was around i had a precast machine leave it to my dad was in text so i got to send me down k pro 2 and what that means is that I interact with the world using a keyboard very effectively and I've done some like very

00:38:14 > heavy duty personal growth work and the course of biohacking myself and one of them was you know you have to write with a pencil and you write like all the horrible things you think about yourself like a really tough exercise and i said no i'm using my laptop and I kind of fought with the teachers about that of this course and finally I won and I typed it out and and it was like so good that they like anonymized it and read it like as part of the training because it was like so negative and dark but I think that when I talk with people much younger than me 10 plus years they are losing that pen to paper because they were told to write and after that they just hyped like like their interaction with reality is different than the way you would what are you about 30 ish 35 ish after 25 are you serious yeah who do you look a little older than that you gotta work on your anti-aging regimen hahaha I'm actually look at it yeah so you still stick with the pen and pencil do your peers I'll do that too like in terms of do you do notice this effect so I'm I'm different in the sense I'm an avid journal ER sadly that's what were

00:39:15 > you for journals going on for multiple things couple them are online okay and a couple more offline and you think the pen is more powerful than the keyboard for that I think the pen can be useful when you're looking to reduce like a bunch of data for example I use the pen when I'm looking to make incisive decisions i'm looking to like cut out a bunch of like nonsense that I don't want my brain to throw at me so what I'm looking to reduce problems all I usually deal with paper because i find i write down only the most important thing when i'm looking to brain dump i usually do it on a keyboard because my hands can move a lot my brain can just basically speak speak to my keyboard got it so you're looking to have to do the filtering process that goes through exactly all right not to get to like into this i hope everyone listening thinks this is interesting to just I don't know if you pay attention to how you interact with your data but as someone who hacked the way and rack with data the sexual matters do you use a special pen or

00:40:16 > juice use whatever pens in front of you usually use the same pen for the journal got it that that doesn't surprise me they're like I once had a gift someone gave me an eight-hundred-dollar celluloid pen and that would be my special pin and then I rest it was like one of those fountain pens and I use it three times I'm like this is way too much work and I saw that was my plan to have a special pin but it felt nice is it's just the routine the ritual right so you just follow the same thing on the same time with the same pen and it just builds a certain anchor in your head just build a certain certain sense a certain feeling as soon as you I start opening the journal I already start the hack into the state yeah so the ritual of journaling at night built its own power and actually even if you're like a hardcore skeptic rationalist and there's a lot of people who really like bulletproof who are in the rationalist community ritual still has neurological impact whether or not you want to be cognitive and rational based on

00:41:17 > everything the fact that you get additional performance from ritual for no apparent reason might scare you if you believe your philly rational but it does work so if you're rational you should do things that work so you can try that one but there's something to this really cool thing absolutely now I asked if you'd be up for giving a discount code for people who want to try out your journal I'm not making money this isn't like an affiliate thing like that this is just a discount code for people want to check this out so thanks for listening and UJ thanks for coming on what's the code for people want to check out your new journal so they can just go to ww five-minute general calm and after they felt filled in their information file page for the check out just right down the code is bulletproof really simple I am a huge fan of Dave and a show and its material I've been falling it for for a while down and really appreciate all of your listening and I hope you enjoy it you're welcome to contact me my emails UJ final jail calm and thank you so much for having me on

00:42:20 > Dave you got it but you're not done yet Oh guys there's one question that I ask everyone on the show and force the question is what are your top three recommendations for people who want to perform better want to kick more ass I don't mean top three journaling or NLP or anything just your entire life's journey what are the things that matter most that people should know about so the first thing is as soon as you wake up make gratitude practice just make it a practice mix make it something that you do every day even if you don't do the journal make it an emotion make it a way of being as soon as you wake up if you don't have time from extensive morning routine that's ok but just allow yourself to wake up with that sense of gratitude it can really make a massive difference I know you and interviewed mark to bond which is why my favorite favorite interviews actually he mentioned the same thing it's so incredibly critical that we do that so that's the first one the second one actually thanks to you eat bulletproof

00:43:23 > and become a student of your body it really it's really changed a lot for me when I sort of notice what I'm what foods insensitive to what what how my my clarity changes how I feel a lot more sluggish to my eat certain foods and I log everything so if you eat bulletproof and become a student of things that you really gravitate to work for example i really enjoy a drink called fresca right which is which is chia seeds in lemon and it's it's drunk by the runners of New Mexico isn't it I grew up in New Mexico by the way so I fresco is just like a cheap brand of soda right okay I'm probably getting the name wrong here but but it was mentioned in the book born der one okay and he mentions how basically these runners use two

00:44:26 > seeds lemon and honey I don't use honey and they usually marinated overnight and do use it on their long runs because it allows them so much fuel for their body I love how much clarity gives me oh it's Chia fresca Jeff fresca okay I Frisco's a look at off-brand soft drink into my gfs ki got it I that's hilarious okay I know and and the third one is maintained a meditation practice my meditation factor has been crucial to my performance because it just helped me stay so on top of things I just know when I get into um I get on my seat and I get into this just just stay and amplify it I haven't quantified this as yet but it has been so crucial for me at times in my life when really needed it it's really made all the difference for me so thanks for sharing those You Jay I appreciate it and where are you based I'm based out of Toronto kannur right

now awesome it's good to see some fellow Canadians although i'm not really canadian i'm just one of those Californians who who moved up here but at least like being in canada so it's a great country thanks again for being on the show and we'll put links to all of the books and researchers you mentioned even bandler although his books are entirely indecipherable and we'll put links to the five-minute journal and to your work as well talk to you soon talk to him there you could tell d been together for a hundred years and the end they hated each other they weren't talking to each other we've kind of watching them and the finally after about 20 minutes she says to her pest assault and you know I you can read between the lines and what he's saying is passive saw bitch you ruin my so this is what happens for you know repair your brain you become a grouchy old guy whose world is collapsed